This is a result of my training in professional funeral celebrant that I realized I regretted not having been able to have accompanied the deceased to reflect on his life. What do we think of our lives? What would we like to do even while we are still in Life?
Encouraging you to use your time not to accumulate regrets, but on the contrary, so you can, until your last breath, feel you are Living. Realizing that we had a fulfilled life, while many of us may think that we could have or should have done more, or done otherwise.
A work together where you will be able to take the time to sit and contemplate what has been done and what you are still able to do, or just to be, for the rest of your life. And the rest of your life is starting right now!
What are your biggest regrets in life? Don’t wait for your deathbed to realize what you think you have missed.
Bronnie Ware has seen people die. As a palliative care nurse in Australia, she accompanied patients at the end of life for many years. She noticed that the regrets entrusted on death beds were often the same. On her blog, Inspiration and Chai, it lists the Top 5 regrets expressed most often.
Before dying, people usually regret :
1- Having led a life that was more pleasing others than themselves :
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”
2 - Working so hard
“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.”
3 - Not having the courage to express their feelings
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
4 - Not having kept in touch with their friends
“Many of my patients had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
5 - Not having elected to be happier
“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
These five biggest regrets expressed before dying are just some of the experiences recorded byBronnie Ware with her patients. She wrote a book highly praised by readers. The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.